Selective mutism is a form of social anxiety that renders a child or adult unable to speak in certain social situations. For children with selective mutism, heading back to school in the fall can be more than just a drag. It can be the beginning of anxiety-filled days, lonely lunches, and pressure to speak from teachers.
Middle-school teacher Eileen Dame has written an interesting account of her experiences teaching a boy with undiagnosed selective mutism. Above all else, she stresses the importance of recognizing the disorder in children so that the problem can be addressed. Although selective mutism is more prevalent than obsessive-compulsive disorder and Tourette's syndrome, it often goes undiagnosed.
Below are some tips for teachers of students with selective mutism according to Dame.
- Remove all pressure on the student to speak.
- Let the child know you will not call on him unless his hand is raised.
- Do not comment about his silence or make a big deal out of it if he does speak.
- Be aware that the student cannot ask you for help. Quietly review material and instructions if it seems the student does not understand.
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My daughter has always been extremely anxious in some situations (and yet extremely extroverted in others; when feeling very safe and comfortable, around those she is closest to). Last year, in grade one, she did not speak at all the entire year to her teacher (or anyone) while inside the school. Yet, she would run outside for recess and play, laugh, talk, and would look just like all the other kids. When the bell sounded, she would head back inside, hand up her coat, walk in the classroom and not say another word until she was off the bus and in my arms. Thank you for this place to read, learn, share and feel “understood”. All the best!
My son was diagnosed with SM when he was in kindergarten. He is now in 3rd grade. It has been heartbreaking to see him have to endure the anxiety. However, we have been fortunate enough to have an understanding school. His friends all know what he has and there are no expectations on him to speak. He does express himself in his own way.
His father and I have been very involved to ensure he gets the services and support he needs.
Please parents speak up for your children with SM because they are unable to do it for themselves!!