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10 Things to Stop Doing If You Have a Loved One With Social Anxiety Disorder

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Updated March 31, 2012

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Stop Enabling Socially Anxious Behavior
10 Things to Stop Doing If You Have a Loved One With Social Anxiety Disorder

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What does it mean to enable someone with SAD? If you have ever spoken on behalf of your loved one, ushered them out of an anxiety-provoking situation, or acted in some other way that allowed them to avoid practicing social skills or avoid social situations, then you may be an enabler.

Enabling can be one of the hardest behaviors to stop because you really do mean well. You don't want to see your loved one in pain or suffering so you feel like you are doing the right thing. The problem is that in the long run, you are not helping to build up your loved one's ability to cope.

The next time you are in a restaurant, resist the urge to order for both of you. If you are at a party and your friend wants to leave, negotiate with her to stay just 20 more minutes. It will always be hard to know when to push and when to give your loved one room to breathe, but if you continue to enable she will never stand on her own two feet.

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