Do you ever feel overwhelmed? Like there is too much to do and too little time? All the time?
I go through these phases I'm sure like anyone else. This month the to-do list is unmanageably long and time is short. Such is life with a not-yet-toddler. Actually he's not even crawling or sitting yet, so I am pretty much his only source of entertainment.
For those with social anxiety disorder (SAD), having a lot to do can also bring out an aspect of the disorder that doesn't get talked about too much. Procrastination!
How do those with SAD procrastinate? Procrastination is in essence a form of avoidance. People with SAD avoid anything to do with social or performance situations.
So you might procrastinate...
- Making a work phone call
- Starting work on a speech
- Calling a friend
- Talking to a supervisor
- Leaving the house
- Going shopping
- Going to the bank
You might even procrastinate in less obvious ways....
If you fear the judgment of others, you might procrastinate....
- Choosing gifts
- Planning meals for guests
- Starting an essay for school
- Even eating!
The list is endless.
Social anxiety wreaks havoc with your ability to get things done, because you are constantly thinking about how others will perceive what you do, what you say, how you look or what you choose.
Part of overcoming the disorder is learning to a) understand and accept that others care less than you think they do (through cognitive-behavioral therapy), and b) get to the point that you can let the feelings of being judged and evaluated roll of your back instead of block your path (through acceptance and commitment therapy).
So my question for you is... is this you? Do you procrastinate because of your social anxiety?