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How to Join a Conversation


Updated July 07, 2012

Knowing how to join a conversation is an important social skill. If you find yourself at a party or gathering with people that you don't know well, knowing how to approach a group or individual will ensure that you don't end up sitting in the corner. Below are the steps to join a conversation.
Difficulty: Average
Time Required: Varies

Here's How:

  1. Before ever trying to join a group in conversation, it is important to do some preparation. Read the news every day. Brush up on popular topics like sports and entertainment. At the very least, be aware of any current events that are likely to come up in conversation.
  2. Choose a group of people in conversation that you would like to join.
  3. Hover on the edges of the group and listen until you know what they are talking about. Make eye contact with one or two people to show your interest in what is being said.
  4. Wait for a natural break in the conversation before you speak. Instead of just jumping into the conversation stream, politely acknowledge that you are just joining the group by saying something like "Are you talking about last night's game?" or "Can I ask a question?".
  5. Be interested in what others have to say. Listen carefully and reflect back what you have heard. Ask open-ended questions that encourage others to speak and share opinions and stories about yourself to help others to get to know you.


  1. Make sure that your body language is open and receptive when joining a group.

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